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No one can come to me, unless the Father… makes them want to come . . . John 6:44 CEV

Coming home from a bar late one night a young man got on a bus where he encountered his very self-righteous aunt. Caustically, she said, “Do you know you’re headed straight to hell?” “Oh dear,” he said, “Don’t tell me I’m on the wrong bus tonight again!” Seriously, we all want our families to share our faith, but it can’t be forced. Jesus said, “You’re not in charge. . . The Father.. .draws people.. -that’s the only way [they’ll] ever come” (Jn 6:44 TM). Does that mean you should stop praying for them? Of course not! But despite your prayers and best efforts there may still be family members who decide not to follow Jesus, and some of those who do may join other denominations. Throughout history countless wars have been fought over religion; don’t turn your home into a combat zone as well As former French First Lady Yvonne de Gaulle once said, “Even the presidency is temporary, but family is permanent!”

You don’t have to condone somebody’s lifestyle in order to let them know you love them and are committed to them. But don ‘t withhold acceptance from those who’ve been good to you just because they don’t worship God the way you do. Maybe they haven’t always made the wisest choices, but when the chips are down, chances are, they are the ones who’ll be there for you. Don’t beat them over the head with the Bible; just live it by setting an example they’ll want to follow. Jesus said, “If I am lifted up.. .1 will draw all people” (Jn 12:32 NCV). Instead of tearing your family apart, make your faith the glue that holds it together.

 

It’s So Bad

The economy is so bad that: I received a pre-declined credit card in the mail.

CEO’s are now playing miniature golf.

A large corporation laid off 25 Congressmen.

A celebrity adopted a child from America.

They renamed “Wall Street” the name of a large well known retail store.

A motel will not leave the light on anymore and a picture is now only worth 200 words



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Don’t sin by letting anger control you.  -Ephesians 4:26 NLT

God doesn’t deny us the right to our emotions, but He does hold us accountable for how we handle them. For example, it’s never okay to abuse those He’s entrusted to your care. Paul said, “Don’t sin by letting anger control you.. .anger gives a foothold to the devil.” Satan would like nothing better than to gain an entry point into your home, then turn it into a living hell. And every time you fly into a rage you lose ground to him. Hot words don’t result in cool judgment. Solomon said, “A hot temper shows great foolishness” (Pr 14:29 NLT). The key to managing your anger is in finding ways to express it so it doesn’t end up in an explosion. It’s okay to share your feelings, but you must do it the right way. Ultimately the issue is not about who’s right or wrong, (or who can yell the loudest), it’s about finding the answer that’s best for everyone. Nobody can be everything you want them to be, all the time. It’s impossible to have a long-term, loving relationship without learning to accept human weakness. So instead of dwelling on one another’s shortcomings, focus on your collective strength as a family. Clinical psychologist Dr. Paul

Pearsall says, “Most of us would give our lives for a family member. Yet too often we live our daily life as if we take our families for granted.” Learn to control your temper; your family’s worth it. After all, who else loves you regardless of what you do? And where else can you find the comfort that comes from such a support system?

 

“A Senior’s Ode to medication”…..A row of bottles on my shelf caused me to analyze myself. One yellow pill I have to pop goes to my heart so it won’t stop. A little white one that I take goes to my hands so they won’t shake. The little blue ones that I take a lot….tell me I’m happy when I’m not. Some capsules tell me not to wheeze or cough or choke or even sneeze. The red ones, smallest of them all goes to my blood so I won’t fall. The orange ones, very big and bright prevent my leg cramps in the night. Such an array of brilliant pills, helping to cure all kinds of ills. But what I’d really like to know is……what tells each one where to go!  Really?. I would like to leave you with this one piece of advice and it is IMPORTANT!””””’Do not take a sleeping pill and an laxative and turn in for the night. You will be sorry.



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Bearing with one another in love… Ephesians 4:2-3 NIV

Nearing the end of his life when he should have been preparing to bless his sons, Simeon and Levi, Jacob told them: “I.. .curse.. .you because of your.. .angef’ (Gen 49:7 CEV). But their behavior should have been no surprise; after all, the apple never falls far from the tree! The fact is, Jacob had already shaped them by his own example when he deceived his father (See Gen 27) and his father-in-law (See Gen 30), and his mother facilitated the deception. Behavioral patterns are passed from generation to generation, and “a house divided against itself will fall” (Lk 11:17 NIV). Mom, Dad, your actions and attitudes will either bless or blight your children. So “Teach [them].. .the right path” (Pr 22:6 TLB). Otherwise they’ll in-

herit more than just your eye color, they’ll end up with your emotional disposition and volatility!

Don’t involve your children in your marital disputes. Solomon warned, “Anger rests in the bosom of fools” (Ecc 7:9 NKJV). Your kids are an easy target for your misdirected rage. Even when your emotional outbursts aren’t aimed toward them, they still suffer the effects. For example, your boss reprimands you at work, and because you can’t retaliate you come home like a bear with a headache and make

everybody walk on eggshells. Even if that’s what you experienced growing up—you’re not a child any more. Lower the decibel level! Don’t let your anger run amok. David prayed, “Watch over…my lips. Let not my heart be drawn to…evil” (Ps 141:3-4 NIV). And James says, “Submit. ..to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you” (Jas 4:7). That’s the only way you’ll ever change the steps in your family dance.



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Keep the unity of the Spirit. – Ephesians 4:2-3 NKJV

When it’s easier to talk to outsiders than it is to your own family, something’s wrong. Your family should be a support system—a safety net to catch you when you fall. We like to envision “family” as a hard-working dad, a stay-at-home mom, 2 children, a dog, and a house with a white picket fence. But for many people family means money problems, troubled kids and warring spouses. That’s why Paul writes: “Walk… with.. .longsuffering, bearing with one another in love.. .keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.” It takes a big dose of grace to make it all work! So, start praying for your kids, instead of just setting boundaries that create distance between you when you don’t see eye to eye. You won’t always agree, but you must learn to respect each other. When God said, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it” (Pr 22:6 NIV), He didn’t say what qualifies as “old,” or when your investment would start paying off. Every family has its ups and downs. And every family tree produces a few nuts! In fact, sometimes the best part is underground! But if you bail out when things get tough you’ll miss the rewards you’d have gotten by hanging on. Often the child that blesses you most is the one who didn’t reflect your views, married someone you don’t like, and doesn’t invite you over to dinner! In the long run none of that matters because your family is a life-long investment. What’s important is to love and support one another unconditionally right now.



DIRECT ACCESS

We have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens. -Hebrews 4:14 NAS

Once a year Israel’s High Priest would walk through the 2 outer areas of the temple and go into the “Holy of Holies” to obtain pardon for the people’s sins. There were many priests, but only the High Priest could do this. The Bible says that Jesus, our High Priest, passed through the Heavens and entered the Holy Place in the heavenly temple to offer a “once-for-all time” sacrifice for our sins (See Heb 9:24-26).

Jesus passed through the first Heaven, which we call the atmosphere; then the second Heaven, which we refer to as outer space; then into the presence of God, or the third Heaven. Now, if you’re living on earth, what you want to do in prayer is get into the third Heaven where God’s throne is. The problem is, we can’t get there unless someone takes us.

One day during the Civil War a soldier sat on a bench outside the White House looking distressed. A little boy came by and asked him what was wrong. The soldier said he needed to see President Lincoln but the guards wouldn’t let him in. Hearing this, the boy took him by the hand and led him directly into the President’s office. “Father,” he said, “this soldier really needs to speak with you.” That boy was the President’s son, who had direct and continuous access to his father.

Because Jesus, the Son of God, is related to the Father, He can bypass all the stuff that blocks us. That’s why when we pray in Jesus’ name, we have direct access to God, are automatically welcome in His presence, and get our needs met.



STAND UP TO IT!

There came a lion.  – 1 Samuel 17:34

One day a woman was waiting for a bus in a dangerous neighborhood when a rookie cop asked, “Do you want me to wait with you, Miss?” “No thanks, I’m not afraid,” she replied. “Then,” he grinned, “Would you mind waiting with me?” We all have things that make our palms sweat and our hearts race; God never said we wouldn’t experience the all-too-real emotion of fear. But He keeps saying: “Fear not.” Why? Because He wants you to confront your fear. So while you’re asking God to remove your mountain, He wants to give you the courage to conquer it! Michel de Montaigne said, “He who fears he shall suffer, already suffers what he fears.” You move from being a victim to a victor by facing your fears head on, not fleeing from them. The Bible says “Fear involves torment” (IJn 4:18 NKJV). Your fears can actually immobilize you. And they’re going to keep attacking you, so you must contjnually face them down. The other option is to bury your fears alive, allow them to erode your mental, emotional and physical health and destroy your relationships. Paul says: “God did not give us a spirit of… [fear] *but.. .of power.. .and self-control” (See 2 Tim 1:7 AMP).

Remember in the Old Testament that while David was guarding his sheep “there came a lion?” In God’s strength he defeated it, plus a bear, and later he overthrew the giant Goliath. Now that lion was just opportunity in disguise. If David had wavered or run, he’d have missed his chance to become king of Israel. So when a lion comes into your life recognize it for what it is: an opportunity from God—and stand up to it!



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In a sense, gratitude is an expression of modesty. In Hebrew,

the word for gratitude – hoda’ah – is the same as the word for

confession. To offer thanks is to confess dependence, to

acknowledgment that others have the power to benefit you, to

admit that your life is better because of their efforts. That

frame of mind is indispensable to civilized society.

 

Be thankful. Don’t take the gifts in your life for granted.

Remember – as the Pilgrims remembered – that we are

impoverished without each other, and without God. Whoever

and wherever you are this Thanksgiving, the good in your life

outweighs the bad. If that doesn’t deserve our gratitude, what

does?

 

SOURCE: By Jeff Jacoby, Boston Globe Staff, 11/23/2000



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If you never give a moment’s thought to the fact that your

health is good, that your children are well-fed, that your home

is comfortable, that your nation is at peace, if you assume that

the good things in your life are ”normal” and to be expected,

you diminish the happiness they can bring you. By contrast, if

you train yourself to reflect on how much worse off you could

be, if you develop the custom of counting your blessings and

being grateful for them, you will fill your life with cheer.

 

It can be hard to do. Like most useful skills, it takes years of

practice before it becomes second nature. This is one reason,

Prager writes, that religion, sincerely practiced, leads to

happiness – it ingrains the habits of thankfulness. People who

thank God before each meal, for example, inoculate gratitude in

themselves. In so doing, they open the door to gladness.

 

SOURCE: By Jeff Jacoby, Boston Globe Staff, 11/23/2000



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Gratitude isn’t an emotion most of us cultivate. Even on

Thanksgiving, we are more likely to concentrate on the turkey

or the television than on giving thanks. But perhaps we would

think differently about thankfulness if we realized its

extraordinary power to improve our lives.

 

I mean something more than simply the civilizing benefits of

good manners. Of course it is admirable to show gratitude.

Nothing rankles more than showing kindness or generosity to

someone who doesn’t appreciate it. But the value in giving

thanks goes far beyond mere politeness. Gratitude is nothing

less than the key to happiness.

 

For this penetrating insight into gratefulness, I am grateful to

Dennis Prager, author of the shrewd and perceptive ”Happiness

is a Serious Problem.”

 

”There is a `secret to happiness,”’ Prager writes, ”and it is

gratitude. All happy people are grateful, and ungrateful people

cannot be happy. We tend to think that it is being unhappy that

leads people to complain, but it is truer to say that it is

complaining that leads to people becoming unhappy. Become

grateful and you will become a much happier person.”

 

This is a keen observation, and it helps explain why the

Judeo-Christian tradition places such emphasis on thanking

God. The liturgy is filled with expressions of gratitude. ”It is

good to give thanks to the Lord,” begins the 92nd Psalm. Why?

Because God needs our gratitude? No: because we need it.

Learning to be thankful, whether to God or to other people, is

the best vaccination against taking good fortune for granted.

And the less you take for granted, the more pleasure and joy

life will bring you.

 

SOURCE: By Jeff Jacoby, Boston Globe Staff, 11/23/200



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Something to reflect on as you sit down to your Thanksgiving dinner:

If you had been a Pilgrim, would you have given thanks?

Consider what they had been through, the men and women who broke bread together on that first Thanksgiving in 1621.

They had uprooted themselves and sailed for America, an endeavor so hazardous that published guides advised travelers to the New World, “First, make thy will.” The crossing was very rough and the Mayflower was blown off course. Instead of reaching Virginia, where Englishmen had settled 13 years earlier, the Pilgrims ended up in the wilds of Massachusetts. By the time they found a place to make their new home – Plymouth, they called it – winter had set in.

The storms were frightful. Shelter was rudimentary. There was little food. Within weeks, nearly all the settlers were sick.

“That which was most sad and lamentable,” Governor William Bradford later recalled, “was that in two or three months’ time, half of their company died, especially in January and February, being the depth of winter, and wanting houses and other comforts; being infected with the scurvy and other diseases…. There died sometimes two or three of a day.”

When spring came, Indians showed them how to plant corn, but their first crops were dismal. Supplies ran out, but their sponsors in London refused to send more. The first time the Pilgrims sent a shipment of goods to England, it was stolen by pirates.

If you had been there in 1621 – if you had seen half your friends die, if you had suffered through famine, malnutrition, and sickness, if you had endured a year of heartbreak and tragedy – would you have felt grateful?

SOURCE: By Jeff Jacoby, Boston Globe Staff, 11/23/2000




 

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